I know it’s tough right now, and you may feel weak… but I want you to know that you absolutely have strength within you. Breakups are never easy, and the pain you’re feeling is valid. If you didn’t feel pain, that would mean you probably never really cared. It’s okay to grieve the loss of the relationship and the future you had envisioned, even if it ended badly. That’s 100% normal.

Remember, healing is a process, and you have to take it one day at a time. It comes in waves. Some days you may feel empowered. Other days, you may feel like you took two steps back. That’s all part of the “journey.”

This chapter of your life might feel like a huge loss, but in reality, it was an opportunity to learn so much, even if it doesn’t seem like it now. And remember, anyone who is not meant for you is not a loss anyway. Think of this as your new beginning. A fresh start with more wisdom under your belt.

Set aside time each day to focus on self-care. I also suggest embracing activities that bring you joy, whether it’s rediscovering old hobbies or exploring new ones. (The word “hobby” can be annoying, I know lol… but think “fun things to do.”) Walking every day is a great start! I always think of walking like “free therapy,” as it’s a great way to clear your mind and calm your nerves. Plus, who doesn’t like a lil fresh air??

Surround yourself with people who love and support you. If you don’t have a support system, or want to keep your situation to yourself, reach out to a breakup coach like me! That’s what I’m here for. I never want anyone to feel alone. It can help so much to talk things over.

It’s important to reflect on the relationship and acknowledge the lessons learned. Every experience, even the painful ones, contributes to your growth. Use this time to rediscover who you are, independent of the relationship.

You have an incredible journey ahead filled with opportunities for personal development, new connections, and unexpected joys. This is a chance to redefine your path and pursue the things that truly matter to you. Keep looking forward.

Remember, you are not defined by this breakup. You are a whole and valuable individual deserving of love and happiness. It’s okay to feel the pain, but don’t let it overshadow the bright future that awaits you. This time in your life is TEMPORARY.

You are strong, resilient, and capable of turning this situation into a stepping stone toward a brighter tomorrow. Keep your head high, and know that with time, you will emerge from this stronger, wiser, and ready for the beautiful adventures that lie ahead.

You’ve got this!

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